austinjoel2001
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I’ve been lifting for the last two months at a local gym. It’s the only gym in our area (within half an hour) that my insurance pays for. I cannot switch gyms and I cannot drive further than where I currently go because I go at night when my kids are asleep (5 & 1). My husband is home with them but I’d like to be close by in case they both wake or an emergency happens.
There are two men (probably 19-23) who work out together every day at the same time as me. They are constantly shouting and groaning (not normal groaning or grunting while lifting, this is like they’re going to war or on something, they are not power lifting or anything that might warrant the noises they make). They fly through “sets” in a super disorganized intense fashion. Moving from one exercise to the next as fast as possible and sprinting between machines. It’s incredibly uncomfortable. They 100% make everyone else do the
what is going on here. Tread on eggshells because they’re incredibly aggressive when they work out. To the point that others leave the gym without finishing their work out.
I’ve had a few instances where they get too close to me (like a foot from me in a way to pressure me off a machine when I literally just got on and have not been lolly gagging) when I’m the only other person in the gym and they have zero self awareness.
Last night they took up the entire freeweight room and mirrored class room. Running frantically between both rooms. I stayed out of their way. I went to the weight room and moved a bench to the far end of a mirrored wall so I could do one armed bent over rows and watch my form. There were four other benches available and about 15 feet of mirror wall left to use. I was taking up maybe 6 feet because my bench was facing the long way. One of them walked right up to me and stood directly in front of me blocking the mirror while I was clearly watching my form. My face was maybe 2 feet from his butt. The second guy grabbed dumbbells and stood directly behind me right by my butt. I immediately stood up and just stood there while they flew threw a million reps in a few minutes before running to their next “station”. I cannot tell if they genuinely don’t have self awareness or if they are purposely pushing my boundaries. There have many multiple situations like this. These two are nothing like the normal polite gym bros that I’ve encountered. I genuinely think they are on something when they come to the gym. I plan to call management tonight but idk what they could possibly do.
Has anyone else experienced this? I plan to chat with a few of the other regular dudes to see if they come regularly enough where I can plan to come at the same time so I’m not alone with these two. They rarely act like
This when other men are in the gym.
Edit 1: I went in this afternoon after confirming the manager was in. I spoke to her about what has been happening and she was appalled. The manager is a young 20 something woman and she completely understood my concerns. I told her I debated not saying anything to management but she said she’s glad because they don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable. The owner was not in today. Which is fine. She started looking at the cameras right away and told me she would contact them and phrase it in a way that left me anonymous. She said she’s had to do this before. She usually contacts them and says she was doing routine camera review and noticed a pattern of behavior that they will not tolerate at their gym. I hope it works out.
Edit 2: They weren’t at the gym until a few days ago(at any time during the last few weeks). I think they were suspended or talked to. I never asked for a follow up from the manager. The difference in their behavior is very noticeable. One of them still seems to have a chip on his shoulder, his buddy that usually comes (possibly brother or family member) checked his attitude the other night mid-workout. I’m feeling comfortable again and thank everyone here for the support, I was gaslighting myself for the longest time over this situation.
There are two men (probably 19-23) who work out together every day at the same time as me. They are constantly shouting and groaning (not normal groaning or grunting while lifting, this is like they’re going to war or on something, they are not power lifting or anything that might warrant the noises they make). They fly through “sets” in a super disorganized intense fashion. Moving from one exercise to the next as fast as possible and sprinting between machines. It’s incredibly uncomfortable. They 100% make everyone else do the
what is going on here. Tread on eggshells because they’re incredibly aggressive when they work out. To the point that others leave the gym without finishing their work out.I’ve had a few instances where they get too close to me (like a foot from me in a way to pressure me off a machine when I literally just got on and have not been lolly gagging) when I’m the only other person in the gym and they have zero self awareness.
Last night they took up the entire freeweight room and mirrored class room. Running frantically between both rooms. I stayed out of their way. I went to the weight room and moved a bench to the far end of a mirrored wall so I could do one armed bent over rows and watch my form. There were four other benches available and about 15 feet of mirror wall left to use. I was taking up maybe 6 feet because my bench was facing the long way. One of them walked right up to me and stood directly in front of me blocking the mirror while I was clearly watching my form. My face was maybe 2 feet from his butt. The second guy grabbed dumbbells and stood directly behind me right by my butt. I immediately stood up and just stood there while they flew threw a million reps in a few minutes before running to their next “station”. I cannot tell if they genuinely don’t have self awareness or if they are purposely pushing my boundaries. There have many multiple situations like this. These two are nothing like the normal polite gym bros that I’ve encountered. I genuinely think they are on something when they come to the gym. I plan to call management tonight but idk what they could possibly do.
Has anyone else experienced this? I plan to chat with a few of the other regular dudes to see if they come regularly enough where I can plan to come at the same time so I’m not alone with these two. They rarely act like
This when other men are in the gym.
Edit 1: I went in this afternoon after confirming the manager was in. I spoke to her about what has been happening and she was appalled. The manager is a young 20 something woman and she completely understood my concerns. I told her I debated not saying anything to management but she said she’s glad because they don’t want anyone feeling uncomfortable. The owner was not in today. Which is fine. She started looking at the cameras right away and told me she would contact them and phrase it in a way that left me anonymous. She said she’s had to do this before. She usually contacts them and says she was doing routine camera review and noticed a pattern of behavior that they will not tolerate at their gym. I hope it works out.
Edit 2: They weren’t at the gym until a few days ago(at any time during the last few weeks). I think they were suspended or talked to. I never asked for a follow up from the manager. The difference in their behavior is very noticeable. One of them still seems to have a chip on his shoulder, his buddy that usually comes (possibly brother or family member) checked his attitude the other night mid-workout. I’m feeling comfortable again and thank everyone here for the support, I was gaslighting myself for the longest time over this situation.