@silverflame Hey man, I’m 35, 5’11”, and just over 4 months ago, I was 232 lbs, so very much in the same vein as your experience.
I weighed in this morning at 189.4 lbs. I did 3 easy things after initially setting and failing at a set of lofty goals:
1) I stopped drinking completely. I’m 132 days sober, and I now consider myself an alcoholic after being unwilling to call it that at first. Alcohol will keep you from moving the scale, especially if it makes up a large part of your calorie intake.
2) I started eating the same breakfast every day: a McDonald’s Sausage McMuffin clone that I make at home by freezing the cooked sausage patty and English muffin wrapped in wax paper, then pop in the microwave for 1 minute and add a slice of cheese on the bottom after it’s warm. I also eat a light lunch and try to eat more vegetables than meat at dinner.
3) I started walking 10,000 steps a day, every day. I walk 2 miles in the morning with my dog, a good bit at work, and 1-2 miles in the evening after dinner.
That’s it.
I have a lot of experience lifting and people will rightly tell you to lift to maintain muscle mass while dropping weight, but I haven’t implemented that back in yet. It took me 4 months of doing this every day, but I’ve dropped 42 lbs in that time. I believe anyone can do the three things I just listed.