shawntavia
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@haithai01 Perhaps not super helpful, but I run 40-50 miles/week and go to the gym for 1-1.5 hours 1-2x/week, but my entire social group runs 50-90 miles/week (and gym probably 0-2x/week), so, "Sorry, can't come, I still have to run," is like... actually just about the most valid excuse my social group has." My bf runs about the same amount as me, so we either run together, or just meet up before/after the run. I wouldn't mind if he had to reschedule a date because he was genuinely unable to fit in an (actually important) run earlier, but then again, we're not doing any super fancy dates anyway.
Real-talk, though, try planning your schedule ahead. If I know I'm going to have some sort of social event upcoming outside of my primary social group, though (like a work happy hour), I'll work my schedule so that on that day, I run in the morning. If that means I'm up at 5:30, then so be it. Largely I much prefer running after work, but sometimes I have to suck it up and go before!
One thing I really feel no obligation to attend is a happy hour spring on me 1 hour before the workday. No, I'm sorry, if you'd given me notice about this a few days ago I would have been happy to come, but I have something I need to do after work, and I don't feel guilty about skipping something for which I had literally 1 hour's notice.
Real-talk, though, try planning your schedule ahead. If I know I'm going to have some sort of social event upcoming outside of my primary social group, though (like a work happy hour), I'll work my schedule so that on that day, I run in the morning. If that means I'm up at 5:30, then so be it. Largely I much prefer running after work, but sometimes I have to suck it up and go before!
One thing I really feel no obligation to attend is a happy hour spring on me 1 hour before the workday. No, I'm sorry, if you'd given me notice about this a few days ago I would have been happy to come, but I have something I need to do after work, and I don't feel guilty about skipping something for which I had literally 1 hour's notice.