How to respond to the "you look like a man" comments?

[littleangel94]

@seutol85 Hahaha I love this!!!

 

[happycamper843]

@toosmartforyou01 Boxer Alicia Napoleon put it nicely, not the exact quote "I'm a woman and the muscles are on MY body, so they're feminine"

http://www.allure.com/story/alicia-napoleon-boxer-dispelling-beauty-myths

 

[trancegemini]

@happycamper843 I loooooove this!

 

[ghoti011]

@toosmartforyou01 If it's a dude saying it:

 

[spicychristian]

@ghoti011 This!

 

[dawn16]

@toosmartforyou01 People are crazy. I think you have the makings of a great response in your post.

Your body is none of anyone's business. Many people act as though women's bodies are public property and they are entitled to have opinions about them.

 

[tartamudo]

@toosmartforyou01 Look at their gut and ask "Are we talking about family member's bodies, now?"

 

[josephjnapoleon]

@toosmartforyou01 I really enjoy using humor/sarcasm to respond to people who bring you down. Maybe it's not the high route but I think it's justifiable toward people who make low-rent comments about someone's body.

Maybe you can make sarcastic jokes about growing a beard because you've become such a manly man."Have you seen my razor? I'm starting to grow facial hair due to my manly diet and exercise" Or ask them on tips on being more feminine. I'd probably say something at the dinner table like "I need to make sure I eat enough so people think I look feminine enough".

Yes I love to be petty.

 

[windyt]

@toosmartforyou01 do this one on them. https://pics.onsizzle.com/me-looking-for-who-the-fuck-asked-you-3509139.png

seriously. its rude as fuck to talk to you like that, like your body is their personal property. tell em to go fuck themselves with a rusty cactus.

 

[toosmartforyou01]

@windyt Oh I am definitely stealing that phrase for future use!

 

[sabrina_]

@toosmartforyou01 If you want to say anything at all "my body is here to serve and please me, not you. What it looks like is none of your business or concern." is a good way to go. That generally shuts people down and makes them feel pretty embarrassed about what they are saying. Generally though, I try to avoid justifying unsolicited, unwelcome, and unnecessary remarks about my body with a response.

 

[tb8100]

@toosmartforyou01 I had a guy tell me not to get too bulky or else I'd look like a man or I'd become She-Hulk (who is a badass woman and judge, like yes that is who I want to be!). He also said I shouldn't lose my "beautiful curves" [vomit] I told him I do this for myself and not for anyone else. After that, I left the conversation just like that.

He's still trying to hit me up.

 

[mgross]

@tb8100 Why WOULDN'T you want to look like a superheroine???

 

[tb8100]

@mgross He's scrawny. He also told me that women shouldn't lift because there isn't any reason to do so.

 

[seutol85]

@tb8100 Opening jars is the primary reason to do so!

 

[theknightstemplar]

@toosmartforyou01 If they're talking behind your back, and not to your face, why do you need a witty retort?

In fact, why do you need a witty retort at all? if someone does say something to your face, "Please don't make comments on my body, it's very rude" is just fine.

 

[toosmartforyou01]

@theknightstemplar It's weird, because when I was first told this, the person conveying the message started to comment on the body of the offending comment maker and I immediately defended them. But the more I think about it, the more pissed I get, so I would love to have some sort of retort that doesn't boil down to "I'm sorry you are fat and too lazy to do anything about it"

 

[dawn16]

@toosmartforyou01 Just... tell them to STFU and keep their comments to themselves.

 

[dawn16]

@toosmartforyou01 I'm more of a nod and smile type. I don't engage unsolicited comments about my body. It's not their business so I don't engage even with wit.

 

[dawn16]

Same - my standard response is basically one word, then ignoring.

You look like a man! OK

Should you be eating that? Yes.

Aren't you on a diet? No.