cathyrvanderpool
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@porcelainrose I’m here to also gently encourage some therapy, and do consider EMDR for healing from your traumas.
In the meantime, I’m not your therapist, but I am A therapist, and one of the things I’ve been talking about A LOT lately is making time for acts of self love and self care.
It sounds like your career and extended family have taken priority for you (it’s ok, it happens), and you’ve let your self care except for fitness fall off the back end. I want to encourage you to find a way to consciously practice an act of self love each day - something you do JUST for you, because you like it, and because it reminds you that you’re here for yourself just as much as you show up for your job and family every day. As an example, my act of self love has been my skincare routine. Only takes me a few minutes each day, and it’s how I remind myself that I’m worth showing up for, too.
You could also try a Grounding practice - this is similar to mindfulness and meditation, but adds in a physical component. I like to use a sensory grounding technique that helps gently pull your thoughts and emotions back to the present by engaging all 5 senses. You find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste (switch up the order to whatever suits your situation best), and use your body and physical environment to bring your thoughts and emotions back to the here-and-now. This can help if you find yourself feeling like you’re on autopilot a lot.
Hope this helps
In the meantime, I’m not your therapist, but I am A therapist, and one of the things I’ve been talking about A LOT lately is making time for acts of self love and self care.
It sounds like your career and extended family have taken priority for you (it’s ok, it happens), and you’ve let your self care except for fitness fall off the back end. I want to encourage you to find a way to consciously practice an act of self love each day - something you do JUST for you, because you like it, and because it reminds you that you’re here for yourself just as much as you show up for your job and family every day. As an example, my act of self love has been my skincare routine. Only takes me a few minutes each day, and it’s how I remind myself that I’m worth showing up for, too.
You could also try a Grounding practice - this is similar to mindfulness and meditation, but adds in a physical component. I like to use a sensory grounding technique that helps gently pull your thoughts and emotions back to the present by engaging all 5 senses. You find 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste (switch up the order to whatever suits your situation best), and use your body and physical environment to bring your thoughts and emotions back to the here-and-now. This can help if you find yourself feeling like you’re on autopilot a lot.
Hope this helps