@lorial I used to be more like that, but I've always been strong without even trying, so I accepted that as my thing.
Even amongst women, it bothered me in the sports I wanted to play because the taller women would always be better at it. Though there are some sports that a shorter body does better at too.
I am wondering if there are family or cultural issues impacting how you are feeling about this. My own family (including older relatives) wwret always supportive about anything I wanted to try, and didn't force me on specific paths. My country's culture is much better than what it was in the 60's, but media can still be
about it. Then there is local culture, culture of other groups you're involved in...
If my family was really overbearing and opinionated on how I should be, my experience would be totally different. Same if my parents had followed a different branch of the religion they followed. Kinda like the "10,000 hours to master something", 10,000 more negative messages about something is going to impact you in a significant way.
Where it still bothers me between genders is how a "women's side" gym is equipped compared to the "men's side" (which is really co-ed). My gym is better than most, but there is more "this is how women should exercise" equipment, and the equipment is not as good as the other side. Though, it doesn't get broken as much.
The content on the TVs tends to be very male dominated, and the little women's sports content tend to be the "traditionally female" sports. Unfortunately, that is a reflection of the sports network. I wish there was a service they could use where it was more like a guided algorithm playlist - choose 50/50 gendered sports on the coed side with a wider variety of sports, choose 90/10 on the women's side.