@baptistbiblebeliever That’s fair. It’s one of those arm machines that you can face two different ways so I just wanted to get both done. I was partially caught off guard since I’ve never been asked by a man before.
I told a guy no on working in
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lovemyfamily
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namenotallowed
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@lovemyfamily Well, at my gym it is a rule you have to let people work in. It's not under heavy use, so it rarely comes up.
heavenlysun29
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@lovemyfamily I agree. I bring 6 towels and place them on all machines im using in that session. Im not waiting on anybody and nobody is allowed to use my equipment
jonthesaint86
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@heavenlysun29 Your equipment? Since when
heavenlysun29
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@jonthesaint86 I was being facetious. Unless the equipment is being used. Somebody else should be able to use it
jonthesaint86
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@heavenlysun29 Lol guess this has happened so much at my gym that I didn't register it
@johntf Here’s a reframe of this scenario from his perspective to help you answer your own question…
He’s got a timeline that’s almost up and one more thing he needs to do to complete his training for the day.
Someone is just sitting on the machine he needs and he knows he could just work in quickly with no impact since his sets take less than a minute each.
He politely asks to work in and is told that even though you have four sets left, you’ve decided to prioritize your training 100% over his and effectively tell him to fuck off.
Ask yourself now, AITA?
He’s got a timeline that’s almost up and one more thing he needs to do to complete his training for the day.
Someone is just sitting on the machine he needs and he knows he could just work in quickly with no impact since his sets take less than a minute each.
He politely asks to work in and is told that even though you have four sets left, you’ve decided to prioritize your training 100% over his and effectively tell him to fuck off.
Ask yourself now, AITA?
@a3yan His time management is on HIM, not hers to accommodate.
She's not comfortable and doesn't have to share If She doesn't want to.
No is a complete and full sentence.
He has other options, like switching to another station, sorting an alternative exercise or doing the exercise during another session.
She's not comfortable and doesn't have to share If She doesn't want to.
No is a complete and full sentence.
He has other options, like switching to another station, sorting an alternative exercise or doing the exercise during another session.
crossroads81
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bevinluvwithjesus
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@a3yan Hold on, she wasn’t just sitting there she was using it. I’ve had men try to denigrate my training this way. A guy wanted to swap my 20kg for a 15kg because I didn’t need the 20 apparently because I’m a woman ergo my training takes second place to his importance. It’s this kind of nonsense that garners no sympathy from me. My weights were set up on the bar also.
@bevinluvwithjesus A completely different thing happened to you.
Continue to work out what fits your schedule and do your own thing 
@johntf You’re fine. People can ask to work in as this is gym etiquette but you’re well within your right to politely decline. A lot of people don’t like working in with another — maybe because they’re new, feeling anxious, don’t want to feel rushed, don’t like the sharing of equipment without cleaning in between, don’t want to load plates or like you are doing a workout to a specific way. His anger is a reflection of himself.